How to pray
When out of grief, prayer goes inward, into our hearts, and takes the form of a wound of the soul: the whole person is squeezed together, like a tightly clenched fist. Then prayer becomes a cry without words. Because our soul is already crying out to the Lord, and this prayer is transformed into the works of God, which begin to happen next to us, and very often with us and those for whom we prayed. The energy of our pain is generated and transformed into the light of Divine love and mercy.
Through inner pain, we begin to understand Christ crucified and become like Him.
Christ was killed by people, died a terrible death, was buried in a grave, and rose again on the third day. He promised us the same thing — resurrection after death, in the mansions of our Father with Him.
I will say more — the resurrection awaits us in this life — the rebirth into other people, by the power of the Holy Spirit, similar to our Father in heaven.